Every marriage is unique—no two are the same. But no matter how unique and how different one marriage might be from another, the thing that puts everyone on the same page is this: We all want a great marriage. All of us want our unique marriage to be great. But how do we make that happen?

There’s no shortage of thoughts and opinions on what makes a great marriage, but oftentimes those ideas seem too lofty, ambiguous, or confusing to put into practice. Thankfully, it doesn’t have to be that way. The truth is, having a great marriage is not as complicated as many of us have been led to believe. It’s not always easy, but it’s always doable.

In this series, we’ll discover practical ways to make every US better. And because marriage is a major part of our lives, understanding how to have a great one is key. No marriage can be perfect, but every marriage can become their best US, and every best US leads to living a better story.

Ready to get started?

We invite you to use the next few weeks to invest in your marriage. This is a self-service online course. All we ask is 2 simple things:

1. Commit to doing this with your partner. Pick a time that works for you. Do it all in one day or spread it out over the next 5 weeks. There is no right or wrong way to complete this series, make it fit your life and schedule. All of the materials you need – lessons, discussion questions, devotionals – can be found below.

2. Let us know that you are doing it so that we can support you. Fill out the quick form below and let us know that you are participating. We won’t pressure you to come to a class, or share your marriage story. We just want to support you through this process.

Week 1

Your marital habits either lead to the connection or the disconnection of your US.

When a man and a woman fall in love, they get married, have 2.5 kids, and live happily ever after, right? The truth is, the real-life picture of marriage is not  always as easy as we thought it would be when we stood at the altar. Even if a marriage starts off wonderfully, it’s easy for it to fall off the tracks somewhere along the way—as if it stops being the best US it could be. However, no matter how lost a marriage may feel, there’s always an opportunity to get back on track.

This week, we’re going to look at four simple habits you can begin to incorporate into your marriage immediately. And as you put these habits into practice, you might just find them leading you toward the great marriage you and your spouse have always wanted. So, whether you’re loving your US, wondering if your US is going to make it, or somewhere in between, these habits can help you become your best US and lead to a better story—for you and your spouse.

Below you can watch this week’s video and download the discussion questions and daily scripture images.

Week 2

The best way to protect your US is to enjoy your US.

While we all may have different definitions of what it means to have a fun marriage, before we got married, all of us hoped that our future spouse would be fun. And in return, they hoped we would be fun. Why? Because fun is, well, fun! It leads to joy, laughter, and connection—all things we wanted when we were dating, and all things we still want now in our marriage. And while having fun seems to be an essential part of dating, after we say, “I do,” it’s easy for that essential thing become simply an “extra” thing.

This week, we are going to get serious about having fun. As we explore some of the barriers that get in the way of fun and how to overcome them, we’ll discover why making time for fun is so important to a healthy marriage. The truth is, becoming your best US is doable for every couple willing to put in the work. And this week, we’re going to start by working hard at having fun.

Below you can watch this week’s video and download the discussion questions and daily scripture images.

Week 3

Loving God empowers us to love our spouse in ways we could never love them on our own.

What makes a good marriage great? It’s easy to assume that the answers lie in our ability to dissect all the details of what is happening in our marriages and then fix all the problems. It makes sense that our marriages could be better if we could just get better at fixing issues and reducing problems. And for most of us this is true to an extent. The quality of our marriages will go up or down depending on how well we’re managing things and correcting problems that come up with
our spouses along the way.

But what if there’s a better way to become your best US? What if the question isn’t what makes a marriage great, but who? It’s easy to think that the health of your marriage depends solely on you and your spouse. But the truth is, there’s one more Who involved.

This week, we are going to talk about how God fits into our marriages. As we do, we’ll discover that a great marriage starts with a better understanding of God’s role in your US.

Below you can watch this week’s video and download the discussion questions and daily scripture images.

Week 4

When we are living out the positive chase, we are living out the chase in Ephesians 5, the chase of respect and love.

Every couple wants to live happily ever after. But sometime after “I do,” reality sets in and there’s one thing that has the potential to thwart that happy ending: conflict. Every marriage runs into conflict at some point. And although every couple handles conflict in different ways, it’s during those moments of tension and disagreement when we’re most likely to get caught up in a relationally destructive pattern or a cycle. Gratefully, we can begin to break that cycle when we
understand how our thoughts, words, and actions steer those moments.

This week, as we learn to identify the lies we’re all tempted to believe about ourselves and about our spouses in moments of conflict, we’ll begin to take steps toward a more loving and respectful marriage with less tension. The truth is, conflict in a marriage is inevitable. But when we understand how to best handle those tense moments when they arise, it can actually help us and our spouses grow closer together as we continually strive to become our best US.

Below you can watch this week’s video and download the discussion questions and daily scripture images.

Week 5

The us mindset asks, what am I doing to make this marriage work?

Every US has good days and bad days. When things are good, a marriage is, well, good. But when things are bad, it can lead a marriage down a destructive path. When your spouse does things that drive you crazy, that doesn’t work for you. And when you do things that drive your spouse crazy, that doesn’t work for them. To one degree or another, most of us will have these “it’s not working for me” moments in our marriage. So, what do we do when we hit that point?

This week, we’ll take a look at one huge thing we can do in those difficult marital moments: change our mindset. Instead of focusing on what our spouse is or isn’t doing, we’ll learn that we have the option to respond in an US-centered way rather than a me-centered way. As we do, we’ll discover that, by changing our mindset, we can bring peace to even the most frustrating marriage situations. And while no marriage will ever be perfect, as we learn to practice what we  promised on our wedding day, situation by situation, our US can become even more than we imagined on the day we said, “I do.”

Below you can watch this week’s video and download the discussion questions and daily scripture images.